With more that 20 years experience of companying the dying and supporting the bereaved I offer a non-medical, holistic and supportive companying service.
Are you facing a major crossroads in your life?
Have been diagnosed with a terminal illness?
Are you supporting someone through a life crisis?
Would you like to know more about a service that provides practical and emotional support, guidance, planning and/or advocacy?
So, this very particular role—the end-of-life doula—is a beautiful bridge to all the excellent care we already have. And, the doula role at this time of life is one of guidance, witness, compassionate being, presence, and expert end of life support.
I have conducted funeral services, weddings and many other significant ceremonies for people who are nearing death and also want to live life to the full.
Life can become very precarious when faced with a life threatening disease.
To simply BE with another human being as they negotiate their own pathway through to this final Trasna (Gaelic translation meaning "crossing place") is profound.
Many years ago I read, 'Idea of the Holy' by Rudolph Otto the German Theologian. I do not purport to have understood his writing. However, I do remember these words,
"mysterium tremendum et fascinans."
It has been described as "the intense feeling of unknowingly knowing that there is something which cannot be seen".
This knowing has befallen me many times in the presence of death and life. I would better describe my work as a 'Midwife' whose task it is to stay calm, quiet, steadfast and present.
The dying have been my greatest Teachers and I feel a deep gratitude to them for their lessons about truth, compassion, vulnerability and courage.
To be human in the face of death humbles me to be all I can be in this lifetime.
We've become accustomed to birth doulas and now there is a growing awareness for how we accompany the dying and their loved ones with compassion, awareness and practical tips as we approach the end of life.
Please do contact me for an initial conversation, there is no charge.